Reaction.

I am a very non-confrontational person. Like you all know, I am in fact a welcoming mat, after all that was one of my nicknames in college. I am cool with being a welcome mat, it is what it is. However, I am also extremely stubborn when it comes to something that I am passionate about. My friends and family are pretty important to me, and I'd like to keep them that way.

I feel pretty strongly, that when I say I am going to do something, I am pretty much going to do it. Of course, there are the occasions when things simply don't work out, and I CAN'T live up to my word, but I want to think they are few and far between. There are also a few instances that I make a decision to not live up to my word.

Here is a perfect example. I attended a meeting this morning and hear that all the girls are headed to brunch, (keep in mind, that I struggle with the word "no"). When they say everyone is going, and that I had too... yes, there was a part of me that wanted to be with my friends. These are chicks I seldomly hang out with, but I do care about. Especially, when I hear that three out of five just got out of lengthy relationships. I know better then anyone, you need your girls around you during those moments. Back to the story, I agree that I did have plans to hang with someone, we will refer to him as, "PERSON X" (although, they weren't set in stone by any means). So, I said I am going to go to brunch with the girls, and then I'll call ya in about an hour. I am not sure if any of you know, brunch is not an hour long ordeal, more like a two hour ordeal...particularly, when they are hashing about past relationships, healing, and moving on. In the mix, I lost track of time. I looked down at my phone to see that I had been at brunch for about 2 hours. I then look at my text messages, and realize the person I was suppose to hang out with sent some (4) well not so pleasant text messages.

Good news for that person, as soon as you are negative, I no longer have the desire to leave where I am and head over to hangout. Seriously, is everyone not raised to believe "that you get more bee's with honey than vinegar?" I had every intention of hanging with person X after brunch, but immediately was turned off, of even returning the text messages/phone call, let alone hanging out with person X, with the nastiness that I received. I realize you can't have everything in life, but it seems pretty simple to be able to have brunch and watch basketball in the same day. Apparently, not so much.

It is amazing when you see people react, to things as silly as brunch. Yes, I was in the wrong that I did in fact, lose track of time during the gab session, but I am pretty thankful that I figured out person X's true colors so quickly. My parents have always made comments about how my sister and I have little too no forgiveness for stupidity. I really think this is one of those moments. I am all about apologizing for running late during brunch, but not when I get nastiness. That goes back to my theory of no reaction is the best reaction. I continue to believe that people do things just to get a reaction, well good news is, person X didn't get a reaction from me. Unfortunately, he didn't hear from me at all. I do feel bad, that something as petty as brunch has injured a friendship, but at least all the cards are out on the table. Like one of my sister's favorite quotes "it is what it is."

Please remember to take people's feelings into consideration and to heart. I do care about person X, but it also says something about the fact that I sat and chit chatted with females for two hours. I have never been a huge fan of females, but I am slowly making the change. There are some pretty fantastic females out there, and I am happy to call them my friends.