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This is the first time in my life that I have felt like an equal. I have always held my parents on a pedestal. A pedestal that I will eventually reach, a pedestal that when I do reach it, I will one day be a success. It is weird to see or here my mom talk about how her daughters are successful. After all, if you asked either of us you would say we are little kids stuck in grown up bodies figuring out how the world works, one step at a time.

Yesterday was the first time in my life that my mom reached out and asked for advice. Advice on a real-life situation, an opinion that could essentially change her life...not a drastic change, but a change none the less. I finally felt as if I was a friend, an adult friend that she could lean on. Don't get me wrong, she has leaned on my sister and I for support through random acts but nothing overly pressing...or maybe it has been overly pressing but I never really took anything that serious. Yesterday, my eyes were opened and I was an equal to my mom. I could tell she saw me not only as her kid, but as an adult that had a decent head on her shoulders with a little life experience that might be able to give half good advice. I loved the fact that the one of the two people who I think always have an answer, looked in my direction for guidance. Well maybe guidance is a little bit strong, but she looked in my direction for a balanced opinion.

I don't think she knew what she was getting into. She opened my eyes that I am an adult. In doing so, I was able to use one of the quotes she has told me a thousand times..."you will get more bees with honey than vinegar!" She acknowledged that I might be on to something and that is good enough for me. I don't need praise, I don't need acknowledgement of success, because honestly I don't believe I am successful. I am not my mother, she is successful! She has raised two daughters that she now looks to for advice. What an honor to be called upon for advice...no longer am I just a kid, I am now her friend.